“ability to express yourself and your rights without violating the rights of others”
Wanting to be approved of and a fear of disapproval can turn many people into ‘yes people’. How many times have you agreed to do something without really wanting to? In the short term you may think this makes you more popular, but are you really getting the respect you crave? Does it make you feel good about yourself or do you end up feeling unappreciated, used, angry, taken advantage of?
If you are a person who finds it hard to say ‘no’ try the following exercise. You will need to ask a trusted friend to help you. With regular practise you can learn to change your habits.
The next time you want to say ‘no’ remember the positive feeling and just say it. If you feel the need to explain keep it very short. If they come back with another appeal simply say no again.
You need to convince yourself that you are in control of your life before others will treat you the same way. Remember, nobody can make you do something you don’t want to do, if you let them control you they will, but it is YOU who is handing over control. If you begin to take control of yourself then others will learn to treat you differently.
It may be hard at first as some will still see you as easily swayed, but if you stick to your guns and be consistent, they will have to learn to change their behaviour too.
Silicon Beach training offer an assertiveness and confidence building course.
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This assertiveness training course will help to build your confidence and show you assertiveness techniques that you can adopt to improve your quality of life
This 1 day Assertiveness training course provides practical guidance to delegates, improving confidence, feeling comfortable asking for what they want, being able say no when appropriate and feeling better about themselves.